Love can be expressed in many different ways. If we fail to acknowledge that people express love differently, then we will miss our opportunity to connect with that person on a different level. Love is not something that you can fit into a box; because it evolves, it changes, it grows. I remember when my husband and I got married; I felt like the world began and ended with him. That’s how much I loved him at that time. Well now its 15 years later, and I no longer love him in that same way. Has it lessened? No. But do I love him in a deeper way? Yes I do; because time brings about appreciation and understanding that was acquired through our experiences together.
When you really love someone, you allow them to be who they are. They don’t have to put on any airs; but just being who they are is enough. They can be free to be themselves, and not be judged. Love communicates that I love you just the way that you are. You don’t have to put on makeup or clothes for me to love you; or you don’t have to buy me diamonds or pearls just to let me know that you love me. But if we share a turkey sandwich at the park, I will be able to see how you feel about me, because we are together.
You know that you love someone when you’re willing to look beyond what they have done, or said in the heat of anger; and when you’re willing to forgive them before they asked for it. Love also communicates consideration for the person that you are with. You no longer just think about yourself, but when you do anything, or make any decision you think about how your actions will affect the person that you are with. Love supersedes selfishness!
Now don’t get me wrong, you will have issues. But love helps you to move past problems and situations so that you can continue on in your relationship. Real love says that I am with you no matter what we face. Through the storms of life; through sickness; through any situation that we find ourselves in, I will be there for you.
Many times couples say that they love one another, but when they face a storm, they’re ready to jump out of the boat. They fail to realize that a stronger and a deeper love are being developed through the things that they are experiencing. I remember when we lost our first baby. I miscarried in my 25th week of pregnancy, and it was one of the most hurtful experiences that I had ever gone through. Believe it or not, that was one of the situations that God used to draw me and my husband closer together. He didn’t leave me alone to walk through the pain by myself, but we walked through that fiery experience together.
Please understand there are no perfect relationships. But you can experience a deeper love and a greater appreciation for the person that you are with if you don’t give up. Don’t get tired, but stay in the race and you will look back and see that your love has deepened through the things that you have experienced.