Do you have a difficult time being committed in a relationship? Are you unsure on what you can do to help yourself be committed in a relationship? To help understand why it’s difficult for some people to be in a committed relationship and tips for being committed in a relationship, I have interviewed psychologist Dr. Paul David Wadler.
Tell me a little bit about yourself.
“I’m a psychologist in Chicago. I specialize in helping people develop and maintain satisfying relationships in their lives. My particular specialty is helping same-sex couples, though my clients include singles and all kinds of couples. I hold a Master of Divinity from Harvard and a Ph.D. from the University of Texas.”
Why is it difficult for some people to be in a committed relationship?
“In my experience, people who have had trouble developing satisfying romantic relationships also tend to have unsatisfying relationships with friends and family members. Something has happened in their past relationships that has made it difficult for them to trust and commit to future relationships. Their fears are preventing them from being in a committed relationship. When I work with individuals, I try to help them become comfortable with being vulnerable and to become more trusting of others.”
What are some tips you can give to help someone be in a committed relationship?
“Healthy romantic relationships often begin as friendships. Figure out what you’re passionate about and find ways to meet others who share your passions and values.”
What type of help is available for someone that is having a difficult time being in a committed relationship?
“Psychodynamic therapy can help someone examine problematic patterns in
their relationships and teach them better ways to connect with others.”
What last advice would you like to leave for someone that is having a difficult time being in a committed relationship?
“Involve yourself in things that bring you pleasure and satisfy your values. Make friends with the people you meet. The best committed relationships are between people who are also good friends. Maintain a flow of healthy people into your life.”
Thank you Dr. Wadler for doing the interview on being in a committed relationship. For more information on Dr. Wadler or his work you can check out his website on www.drpdwadler.com.
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