Everyone has a past, present, and future. Things that have happened prior to meeting someone should not weigh heavily on the relationship you are embarking on now. When you meet someone you are genuinely interested in, little else matters. Sometimes, there are factors that people consider more important than others when searching for that special person. When you spend too much time worrying about certain things, the one you are supposed to be with may slip away. These are some things that many focus on that shouldn’t have much stock in whether you date him or not.
For those of you who are unaware, your “number” is how many men you have slept with in the past. This shouldn’t matter to anyone except you. If a man is going to judge you on the number of men you have or have not slept with, then he is not worth it. Sex is an important part of a relationship, but your past is your past. You can’t change anything, so why should it be such an important thing? The only time this should factor into a conversation is if you have an STD that you need to discuss with your partner. If there is nothing you need to share, it is your business and yours alone. When I met my boyfriend, we didn’t discuss our “numbers” at all. Only later on did it come out and it wasn’t a big deal at all.
Age is really just a number sometimes. Dating as you are older is much different than when you are dating in high school. When you are in school, dating someone much older is a taboo. The older you get, the less the age of you or your partner should matter. As long as you are not under the age of 18, dating an older man or a younger man should make no difference. In my time, I have dated men that were much older than myself. One of them was 20 years my senior. Perhaps I was just his “trophy” girlfriend at the time, but he treated me like his equal in everything we did.
Who makes more money
Money is always a factor in relationships. When you are in the dating phase, try not to let who makes more affect you and your partner. Men often take pride in being the “bread winner” of the duo. When a woman makes more than her man, it tends to cause tension between them. At the end of the day, whichever person makes more money doesn’t make a difference. The only things that should matter are the bills getting paid and surviving in the tough economy. Currently, my boyfriend makes way more money than I do. We do argue sometimes about who pays what toward the household expenses. However, when it comes right down to it, we are satisfied just knowing that we have a roof over our heads and food in our bellies.
Things that should be important in your relationships are being faithful and trustworthy. Your “number” or how old you are has little influence on whether or not it is a match made in heaven. Make sure you value things that are of significance, not something that cannot be changed. If you love someone, the trivial things won’t matter.
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