1. Supports the updating
A good self-esteem facilitates the actualization of our potential as human beings. Who feels a tendency to put forward their aspirations and develop. On the contrary, the person whose esteem is low can easily give up pushing its limits. Often he does not trust to be able, but other times he fails to think big for his life because he feels do not deserve it. It is then in a vicious circle from which it still does not discover the outcome.
2. Attraction of similar
We intuitively seek the company of people whose self-esteem is comparable to ours. If it is high, the relationship becomes a source of stimulation to “go further”. In the opposite case, we can mutually we “pull down”. For example, low self-esteem predisposes us to tolerate being treated with little respect and such treatment inevitably leads to a drop in self-esteem. On the contrary, a strong self-esteem rather goes along with respect for oneself and in this case, we do not disrespect any form whatsoever. And we seek the company of people for whom we have the account and are able to recognize our value.
3. A basis for a fulfilling relationship
Self-esteem also affects the relationship. It’s hard to believe in the love of each other when our opinion of us is negative. We may then challenge the manifestations of love and even despise the lover expresses that we love or desire. To us, indeed, there is only to be of little value that can attach to someone as insignificant as us. Because of this, we often choose people whose love is difficult (if not impossible) to win, knowing that our success is proof of our worth. But these attempts fail most of the time (see “Dependency emotional and human needs”).
The romantic relationship between two people whose esteem is strong has a better chance to succeed. First, because esteem is an important ingredient of love. Now there’s a good chance that the person who feels or also by those who share its values, as is often the case in romantic relationships. In addition, the esteem of a partner is as important emotional nourishment of unparalleled richness. Finally, the personal security that comes from self-esteem can facilitate the finalization of the problems of private life. The person is less easily threatened and she rarely gets defensive.
With such a basis, the lovers can focus on their development and that of their relationship. They are also able to support others in their quest for development. They use less energy to seek security and confirmation of their value in the eyes of another.
4. Guarantee of success
Off the beaten track Moreover, high self-esteem leads to success. It helps to take risks, to seek innovative solutions, to demonstrate tenacity and perseverance. These attitudes often lead to victory, which in turn feeds both the confidence and esteem. On the other hand, increased success can withstand failures that would be devastating to a person considers fragile.
More my self-esteem is high and I can think big for my life. To me, I deserve what I do to be successful, so I do not hesitate to devote the necessary effort. This attitude attracts many successes that allow me to confirm my confidence in my ability to succeed. The confidence gained, failures are no longer abominations but to avoid mistakes along the way which I benefit.
Conversely, if my estimates are low, I am not inclined to aim high for my life. My business and my plans aborted for lack of tenacity. I do not have the force that pushed me to get what I’m looking into believing that I am worth it. My lack of perseverance is often responsible for my failures and ultimately my lack of confidence in my abilities. Because of the bad opinion of me that result, I’m just not nourishing relationships (and often contribute to devalue me more), a job that does not allow me to develop myself, of my life below dreams …
I will talk about more this topic in my next article.