understand what type of impact stress can have on a married couple’s relationship and stress management tips for married couples, I have interviewed therapist Dave Brashear LCSW.
Tell me a little bit about yourself.
“I’ve been a clinical social worker since 1984, specializing in addiction and couple and sex therapy. I have a private practice located in two suburbs of New Orleans. I am married, have a teenage son, and I’m passionate about my family and all things New Orleans.”
What type of impact can stress have on a married couple’s relationship?
“A little stress seems essential for couples to mature. Too much stress creates a crisis/opportunity: either grow or fall apart. Our weather here six years ago contributed to the breakup of several couples I know, but at least an equal number became stronger as a result of handling the unusual challenges presented by the stress of the storm. “Types” of impact include everything: addiction, abuse, affairs, enmeshment, disengagement, sex, affection and parenting.”
What are some stress management tips for married couples?
“Hold on to yourself! That advice they give in airplanes, put your own air mask on first, applies to most situations. Many folks engage in magical thinking: my partner will fix things. Under stress, we regress, so the better expectation is that your partner will do whatever they usually do under stress. It’s also a good idea to ask for what you want. You’ll only get it some of the time, but the odds are much better than hoping your partner will read your mind.”
What type of professional help is available for married couples that have a difficult time managing their stress?
“I think mental health is not organized around the general concept of ‘stress’, but instead focuses on the particular manifestation of it: anxiety, depression, chemical dependency, abuse, etc. ‘Types’ of help include individual, couple, and family therapy; time-limited, intensive programs like the Catholic Church’s Retrouvaille and private programs; and task-specific help, like money managers, house cleaning services, parenting programs, and the like. I offer ‘fly-in’ therapy for people, usually from out of town, who want an intensive, change-focused experience. I might have successive three hour sessions on two days, then the couple comes back a month or two later.”
Thank you Dave for doing the interview on stress management tips for married couples. For more information on Dave Brashear or his work you can check out his website on Davebrashear.com.
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