I had an epiphany recently. I was throwing myself a pity party because a man never took me home to meet his mom. I said to myself in my head, “If I were prettier, a man would love to show me off to his mom.”
Then I caught myself. A voice in my head said, “See what you just done? You feel bad about one thing, then took it out on your looks.”
This is something that I wanted to share with other women because we all do it, but we never catch ourselves. Every time we feel bad about something, we decide to “self mutilate”.
It made me think about how overweight women may feel. I watched an episode of Tyra where women who were disgusted with overweight people voiced their opinion about how lazy and disgusting they thought fat people were.
I don’t feel disgusted with fat people, but I was always interested in how they became that way in the first place. I was always slim, so I couldn’t understand why everyone couldn’t just snap their fingers and be slim too.
I think fat is a result of feeling bad about yourself. I never met a happy, fat person. All the fat people that I knew were very unhappy in their lives, and they used food as a coping mechanism.
One of those fat women was my mom. She used to eat large portions of food every day, and continued to say, “I’m fat because I had three babies.” But the thing is, her three babies were all grown. How can you still blame all that on having babies, when your youngest baby was 19?
After she developed a new outlook on life (thanks to her religion and me and all my self help preaching) she decided to try to lose some weight. She has now lost about 50 pounds-and she feels good about it.
Whenever her mind changed, her body changed. Whenever she began to feel good, she tried to look good. With women, our looks and our feelings go hand in hand. You can tell how a woman feels about herself by how she carries herself. People say to never judge a book by the cover, but the cover has a lot to do with what’s on the inside.
A woman that truly loves herself would not jeopardize her health. Yes, we all gain a little weight sometimes. I gained 10 pounds, lost 5 pounds, then gained 10 again. But that’s okay because now I’m up to 120, and I’m 22. I’m not overweight, but I still need to watch what I eat and get some movement just like anybody else. In fact, I can actually stand to tone up a little. I’m skinny, but I’m also flabby. It’s not cute.
Women, if you have any emotional problems in your life, you have to face them head on. You can’t use food as a way to cope. You can’t use lying around as a way to cope either. I have to agree that fat people are a bit lazy because if they weren’t they’d be skinnier. Movement is exercise, and exercise helps you to lose weight. If you get lots of movement, you will lose weight. Over the last couple of years, I gained 10 pounds because I stopped doing Pilates, I stopped belly dancing, and I stopped going for walks. That’s how I gained all that weight. I WAS LAZY. All I did was sit. And the more you sit, the less energy you have, and when you have less energy, it makes you not want to do anything.
You CAN lose weight if YOU decide you want to lose it. You have to put your mind to it, and you have to have people that support you so they can keep you motivated. So get up off your fat ass lose some weight!