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How can I convince my mom to listen? I’m doing good in every class except honors geography. I have a D in that class, and the third quarter is about to end. My mom threatens to take my phone, video games, and computer away, even though I explained to her I’m not a geography student and the class is really hard. I don’t like how my teacher teaches. We don’t do classwork, just take quizzes and tests. Yet my mother won’t listen, and she thinks my phone and PC are a distraction. What can I do?
What can you do? This isn’t a tough one.
Study harder. If you’re getting good grades in all your other classes, you should be able to do well in this one, too. It may be more difficult than the others, but that just means it requires more work.
Obviously, your mother suspects your electronic devices are distracting you, and she may be right. Even if she’s not, I can’t blame her for trying.
If you want to keep your mother from restricting your access to toys (and yes, a mobile phone for a student is a toy, not a necessity), the solution is simple. Get that grade up. Do the work needed to earn a B in the fourth quarter, and your problem should go away.
Your mother would like you to learn that you cannot do only the jobs you like. This is real life. Many times through the course of that life you will be called on to perform tasks you hate, tasks that you do not do well. You’ll work for bosses who don’t manage the way you like, or project managers who take what you feel is an inferior approach to a task. That’s what separates the workers from the slackers, the successful from those who struggle. And on a more personal note, it separates those with phone and video-game privileges from those without such privileges.
As a child, I had juice with breakfast, and for other meals the only drink options were water and iced tea. Is it better to have kids drinking milk or juice with meals, or is it healthier to have them drink water?
Neither option is demonstrably healthier than the others – both have their benefits.
Milk remains the best way to get most youngsters the calcium they need. And real fruit juices provide valuable vitamins and minerals in a form more palatable to many children than fresh fruit or vegetables.
Of course, we all need water, and many of us do not get enough of it. When our bodies don’t consume sufficient water, they become dehydrated and function less efficiently.
Milk and fruit juices contain a lot of water. While those liquids alone are probably not enough to deliver the full dose of water a child needs, given their other nutritional benefits, serving them with meals makes sense. Here are a couple of strategies you can use to get the best of both worlds:
- Serve a cup of milk or juice with every meal, then augment with water. If your children are still thirsty after drinking the milk or juice, allow them to guzzle all the water they like.
- Serve milk or juice exclusively with meals, allowing the kids to have seconds if they like. Between meals, allow them to drink nothing but water.
I’ll close with a couple of quick tips.
First, remember that many products marketed as juice are little better than sugar water. Stick to 100% juice. It will provide both the nutrients and the water your children need.
Second, encourage your children to listen to their bodies. When they need water, they will become thirsty, but many children don’t allow such a minor impediment as thirst cause them to stop what they are doing and grab a drink. Whenever you hear them mention thirst, offer them water and encourage them to drink their fill.
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