The short answer is yes. Am I the only one that feels that after weeks of watching her on TV, I am still not invested in her enough to care if she falls in love or not.
However, the long answer is yes. She represents everything I do not want my two young daughters to grow up to become when it comes to the love of a man. She is needy and flakey when it comes to her suitors. And by suitors, I mean Bentley. You remember, the boy who trashed talked her behind her back. I cannot fault her for not knowing all the horrible things he has said about her behind her back and her still yearning to be with him. I can, however, fault her for yearning to be with him after she was told before the show by Michelle Money that Bentley was only going on the show for the opportunity to promote his business (good job on that Bentley, I still have no idea what it is that you do for a living). Michelle also warned Ashley that Bentley was going to leave the show after a short time. Ashley was told upfront the kind of man she would be dealing with and still allowed him on the show and was shocked and saddened when he did exactly what she was warned he would do. I, for one, was not shocked, nor saddened.
It is not uncommon that in our late teens, early 20’s, us women are trying to get our sea legs in this unknown and strange world called “adulthood.” We make numerous mistakes that hopefully don’t damage us too much once we totally crossover to the point in our lives when we start slathering on wrinkle cream. In addition, we must go through a phase of falling heads over heals for the bad boy who totally and utterly mistreats us while we still look at him with those girly googly eyes. Hopefully, though that phase happens in middle school. Sadly, for Ashley that phase is happening right before our eyes and on national TV. Let me say again, she was warned beforehand about this person.
I want to yell from every rooftop to Beyonce’s Independent Woman playing in the background, “Grown women are not this needy! We are strong and independent! Real women don’t waste more than an hour of their life crying over the boy who left us, especially when we have, like 10 guys waiting to take us out in the very popular city of Chiang Mai (Don’t worry, I’ve never heard of it either until the show).
I want my girls to grow up to be sure enough of themselves and smart enough to know that when a boy won’t spend his time on them, they are not to waste their time on him. If a boy loves you, he will stop at nothing to be with you, right?
Am I wrong in thinking that Ashley represents the friend you have who bores you to tears when they go on and on about their horrible on again-off again boyfriend? The friend who you just wish would realize her own self worth enough to know that she should not be wasting her time on someone who can’t see her for the treasure she is? Tell me, what are your thoughts about Ashley?