You either approve of it or you don’t. But when the rubber meets the road it really doesn’t matter what you think. It’s each person’s job to mind their own business. It’s not the place for anyone to tell another person who they should love or date.
Black and white couples make the most beautiful kids and they know no prejudice. They have the best of both worlds. Look at the Rock the former wrestling champion turned actor and Mariah Carey. Both of these mixed race people are good looking people. But despite all of the positives we still get negative feed back and smart Alec remarks and reaction from the public.
If you really want to see what kind of prejudice is in a persons heart, just get seen dating a black person. As soon as they see it and open their mouth all that hate will come rolling out. Now for most people it’s not a matter of hating the other race, it’s just a matter of hating seeing the other race mixing with our own. But if its not happening to them then they need to keep quiet and if they don’t like what they see then they need to look in the other direction and there won’t be a problem.
White guys get a lot crap from dating black girls, but white girls get a whole lot more crap. You get a lot of crap from family and friends and some people get disowned. It’s like if you’re not doing what they approve of and you’re not doing things their way then they don’t want anything to do with you.
To them they are right and you are wrong, even though you may have a beautiful sexy black girlfriend and they have a fat ugly wife with a figure like an egg with legs. Their ugly wife is shaped like the planet Jupiter and is about the same size, but they still have to nerve to bad mouth you for having a pretty girlfriend with a tan.
How do I know this you ask because I’ve done been their and done that many times. It’s happened to me over and over again.I was dating a black girl and every friend I had but two evaporated instantly.
That was in the early 80s and they haven’t spoken to me since. These were friends that would spend the night and go out and party all the time and we would drive each others cars. We’ll I learned they weren’t my friends and they found out that I wasn’t their puppet. My other two friends moved away, so all these years I just stayed to myself and said to heck with friends.
It is hard to date or marry interracial when you take into account the problems that family and friends will give you. It’s harder in some communities than in others. It’s tough if you live in an all white neighborhood because there are some really prejudiced people there.
Don’t get me wrong, they are good people, but when it comes to black and white mixing they are your enemies, because you are not doing things their way. But it’s a lot easier in a mixed community if you’re a mixed couple; it’s not as noticeable there.
Interracial relationships are not for the faint hearted or wuss bags, or people that worry what everyone else is thinking. Now, other people will put on their friendly hey how you doing face in front of you and then tear you apart behind your back.
But some will just tell you to your face what they think. I say yeah like their paying some your bill of something. It’s much simpler to stay with your own race and much less strife. You won’t be dealing with crap from your family or friends, and no back stabbing or gossip.
A lot of people date another race for the wrong reasons, some just so they can brag about it and others just to find out what it’s like to have sex with them. This is lust not love. People like me already know what its like is so if I ever dated another back woman it wouldn’t be to see what its like, it would be for love.
But if you do ever meet a nice person of another race and fall in love, then what do you do? You follow your heart that’s what you do. They say love is blind and that is a true statement. The two parties involved in the relationship are blind to the interracial dilemma. But the butt holes of the world can still see and cast their opinions and insults right and left.
But the truth is outside of family and friends giving you a problem there is no problem with dating a person of another race. It’s the same as all other relationships. Family and friends are a deciding factor in whether you succeed or fail. It’s how you deal with it that counts and are you ready for the confrontations to come. Sure their will always be an exception to the rule and you will find that one in a million family that’s ok with it. But when it comes down to it its no body’s business but yours and your partners.
My advice to anyone that has an attraction to someone of another race is to date only for love, not just to see what its like is. I can tell you what’s its like, it’s all pink on the inside and everythings exactly the same.
Let your heart be your guide not your lust. Go into the relationship with an open mind and an open heart and forget the rest of the world. Between black and white there is no difference when it comes to romance, love or sex.
The Men’s Health Blog
5-6-2010 Thursday 4:50pm Timothy Edward Wilhelm
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