Some people are born worriers. When there are no major issues with which to deal, they fret about the small stuff. They are never content; in fact, they probably can’t remember a time when they were completely happy.
And that’s unfortunate. Life passes quickly and when one worries and frets, he or she throws away a valuable commodity- time. Each of us gets only one chance at today. Once it’s over, it will never return.
Follow the suggestions below to become less anxious and to start getting the most out of life:
Limit your worry time.
Set aside a certain period each day to indulge in worrying. Half an hour should be sufficient, since you won’t accomplish anything worthwhile during that time anyway. If you catch yourself mentally fussing about a problem outside that time, firmly and deliberately set the thought aside until the next worry period.
As the saying goes, “A problem shared is a problem halved”. When you have a problem find a trusted friend or family member in whom to confide. Be assured that your problem is not unique. Whatever is worrying you, has befallen many other people before. Often a outside opinion, or two or three, will lend fresh perspectives, and help you think of alternative solutions you had not considered.
Focus on today.
Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is unknown. All anyone can control is today. Formulate one or two goals you can accomplish in the next twelve hours which will improve your situation. They might be as simple as getting a haircut, taking a walk, or connecting with an old friend whom you haven’t seen recently. When evening arrives, you will be satisfied that you have accomplished something, and may want to set up objectives for tomorrow.
Count your blessings.
The mere fact that we live in a free country is cause to be thankful, and most people have many more reasons besides. Are you reasonably healthy? Do you have supportive friends and family? Is there food in the fridge and a roof overhead? Many people in third world countries would judge you to be indescribably fortunate. Of course you have problems; everyone does. If you had no problems, you’d be dead.
Practice stress reduction techniques.
Learn meditation, take up yoga, practice deep breathing techniques. The benefits of meditation, practiced daily, have proved to be extremely beneficial for physical, emotional and mental health. (See link below).
You needn’t run a mile. A short walk in the fresh air or around the mall will be advantageous. Be kind to yourself. Get a new book, see a movie, buy a crazy T-shirt. If you’re enduring a stressful time at present, it’s fine to treat yourself. There will be time for austerity later when conditions improve.
Think of others.
You are not the only one with troubles. Think of someone who is worse off that you are and visit a shut-in, someone with a serious illness, or a nursing home resident who gets no visitors. Volunteer at a soup kitchen, a distress line, or an “Out-of-the Cold” program. While thinking of others, your own worries will fade into the background, and you can review them later with a clearer perspective.
Consult your doctor.
If none of the above suggestions improve your mental outlook, it may be time to consult your family doctor. Depression can be caused by a hormonal imbalance and there are medications to treat that. The worst thing you can do is to sit and brood.
So, get up, get going and move purposefully toward a brighter tomorrow. Many others have done it and you can too. With concentrated effort, even chronic worriers can be cured.
Benefits of Meditation