“My children are my life!”
That statement should only ring true if the person stating it is a foster parent, a teacher, or in some other profession that deals with children. Parents are supposed to raise kind, self confident, and self reliant people; they are not supposed to spend every waking moment seeing to their every need and whim.
The biggest issue, however, is leading your child to find their passion. While there is a ton of reading material on how to do just that, it bears saying that in order to help your child find their own passion, a parent should also find theirs. How can you, as a parent, expect to be able to tell your kids to follow their dreams, to assure them that they can accomplish anything they want to if you aren’t following yours?
How do you find your passion?
Think back to a time or an activity that really sparked your interest. Before real life took over your world, was there something that you really wanted to do with your life, different from what you are doing now?
If so, explore your options. What occupations within your interest would be something that you would love to pursue?
Getting over the syndromes
“It’s too late for me.”
For some things it really is too late. If you wanted to be a medal winning gymnast, for example, and you’re in your early thirties, it really is unrealistic to expect to get back into a career meant for much younger people. But that doesn’t mean you couldn’t explore other aspects of the same field. A gymnastics teacher or an assistant trainer are just two options. The same can be done for a multitude of activities.
“I’m not good enough.”
Is that what you plan on telling your child when they ask why you never accomplished something you talk about? Or better yet, is that what you plan on telling them when they start a pursuit of what they are passionate about? You may actually not be good enough just starting back into it but you know what they say about practice. Anything worth doing will take a lot of work. If you’re not willing to do the work, then you can’t expect your children to do the work it takes to reach their goals either.
“I don’t have time/money.”
Again, anything worth doing will take a lot of work. If it’s important to you, then you will find a way to accomplish it, regardless. Are you going to tell your kids that the reason you didn’t follow your passion was because it was too much work?
Not pursuing your own passions won’t likely damage your children but it can put a dent in their own pursuits. It can alter their perceptions of what it takes to make their dreams a reality.