If you haven’t walked in a battered woman’s shoes, then you have no idea what she has really been through. Domestic abuse is not at all what some people think it is, and common myths are what help make it a joke among some people. However, domestic abuse can be physical, emotional, verbal, and sexual, and it is real.
Myth: Domestic abuse only happens to low income females.
Truth: It can happen to anyone regardless of income status or gender. Yes, even the wealthy are not immune to this. It happens to mainly women, but men can be victims in rare cases. It happens to people who attend church regularly. It happens with different cultures, age and marital status. It can happen to your next door neighbor.
Myth: Domestic abuse does not affect the children.
Truth: On the contrary, the children can be affected by this for years. They witness the abuse of their father on their mother, and sometimes the father will even abuse them as well. In turn, sometimes the children can be bullies at school, and sometimes as the children grow older, the cycle continues. In order to truly help the children, they should go through counseling to help them realize that what they saw happen between their parents or their own abuse should not be allowed and that what happened is not their fault.
Myth: Alcohol and drug abuse cause domestic abuse.
Truth: While alcohol and/or drug abuse can be a part of the abuse, these two do not solely cause domestic abuse. The abuser makes the excuses that alcohol or drugs caused him to abuse the victim, but the choice was all his in what he does to the victim.
Myth: Battered women deserve the abuse because they provoked it.
Truth: Not one person deserves to be hit or beaten by another human being for any reason whatsoever. There is no excuse for one human to do this to another human being, not to mention the fact that this is against the law.
Myth: It is easy for the victim to leave the abuser.
Truth: Leaving an abuser is the hardest thing for a victim to do when in this situation. On average, the victim will leave several times before she is finally able to leave for good. The abuser gets angry when the victim leaves because he is losing control. He threatens her with various things like hurting her or the children or messing with their finances to bring her back to him. Hence, this makes it the most dangerous time for the victim to try and get away from her abuser.
Domestic abuse is not something to be taken lightly. It is very real and happens in various ways, such as physical, emotional, verbal and sexual. People in society need to step up and take notice because domestic abuse is messing up lives.