Life is complicated but mostly we make it so! We have certain expectations of ourselves and even more from others! Our not fulfilling them can escape our attention but not that of others, especially if they directly affect us. They leave a bad taste in the mouth which can lead us, in turn, to let down others; a chain reaction. Good deeds are forgotten sooner and sometimes taken for granted. We feel the world is not that fair and that shows in our demeanor, outlook and actions!
Suspicions score over trust when we deal with those who we are not that comfortable with. We overlook the same behavior when it comes from our own loved ones. Do we give others a fair chance? It could be mostly due to our viewing life as a zero-sum game; one gains, the others have to lose! And don’t these happen at the work place often? You bet!
Human frailties and insecurities can trump reason easily. We are vulnerable and prone to mood swings. It can be that our expectations are higher than our reach, or feel others are getting luckier breaks than us. Generally, it all boils down to our attitude and willingness to accept the challenges which others do and even pay the price for. We lose some to gain some. The rich tend to play hard ball which the majority baulks at! There are subtle changes in the way we approach life, but we only see the end result!
The secret of happiness of few is their genuine feel for the success of others. At a higher level of thinking, they are genuinely happy, more so, than for their own success! It is true bliss to see others succeed. After all, when more are happy that spreads the cheer all around! At least, we are left more at peace with the overall level raised! And we also plunge into the game without inhibitions! Our life is short; why not enjoy such moments?
Newborns are ever innocent and trust all. But we have to make them worldly wise, robbing them of the basics that they are born with; the God-given love and beauty of existence. And as the world is getting more competitive, their happy childhoods are also at risk; they have to grow up sooner to take the challenges head-on. Are we also not leaving them more hurdles along their way? We tend to live for the moment, not in a positive way but without a thought for the future! The sustainability factor is at risk; everyday wasted makes it worse.
And even countries are unable to accept others with a different take on life; increasingly my way or no way! The innate goodness is evident like in the face of great calamities, but mostly we view others with distrust. Don’t each have enough on their own plates; sometimes, it looks like an easy way out to distract from own failings? The quake and tsunami in Japan also swept away the troubling European debt crisis off the headlines! But are they not back with a vengeance?
When we get lulled into some peace, we are rudely shaken by harsh realities. That happens in personal lives and for countries; even natural disasters do not leave us at peace! The latter is beyond our control as there are some fault lines in the earth’s crust. But let us tackle those we can; and that is to change our perception that it is better to coexist! There were times, when societies lived in peace with others, and great souls were welcomed with open arms and their wisdom united many parts of the world. Gautama Buddha was able to spread his great teachings far and wide when travel was not by hopping into planes! And now with technology everywhere, what prevents us from translating the obvious good into our daily lives? Looks like we want to look for trouble, our bane! Might is right; seems to be the order of the day! Increasingly, the much touted freedom looks like a mirage when the powerful and the mighty ride roughshod over the less fortunate. And mind you, “might is right” is not a comfortable thought when some have different views of what is right and driven by self-interest!
Our world is far from perfect and looks the journey will remain complicated. The solutions are within us; the willingness to accept others with a different outlook than us, as long as we can coexist! A bit more of give and take among family, at office and countries and soon enough we are at the doors of heaven, even when alive! Phew, what more do we want?