Jealousy is a common thing among siblings, and if you’re dealing with a jealous sibling you know how annoying it can be. Dealing with a jealous sister can have a lot of strain on your relationship, no matter why it is she is jealous, you’ll have problems getting along.
The jealousy among sisters usually comes with age. If you and your sister are many years apart you’ll probably find that there is no jealousy issues since you are on completely different levels in life. However, if you and your sister are closer in age, then of course you’re more likely to see jealousy since your stages of life are so close together.
You may have had situations such as:
– She gets a new car but yours is better.
– You get a boyfriend, all of the sudden she wants you to spend every second with her.
– She gets a boyfriend who weirdly looks a lot like yours.
– You have child, she wants to start trying to get pregnant.
– You get a new job, she doesn’t seem as happy for you as everyone else.
There are many ways that your sister can be jealous of you but that doesn’t mean your relationship is going to be doomed forever right? No. You just need to find ways to effectively and calmly deal with your sister’s emotions.
A sister-sister relationship is a strong one. Your sister is probably someone that you love to be around and someone that you can really talk to. Your sister is also probably someone that really depends on you. So you really need to think about how you will handle their jealousy so your relationship doesn’t get ruined forever.
First, lets try and look at things from your sister’s point of view. How did your parents treat you growing up? Did they seem to favor you over her, or give you better things than they gave her? If so, then you probably have the reason for your sister’s jealousy right there. It can be hard to deal with when it seems that parents like another child more than you, even if they don’t mean to make it seem that way.
If your parents treated you both with the same amount of love and care, then your sister may just be jealous for no reason other then their own insecurities.
Be sensitive. Your sister may feel that you are prettier or that you have much better taste then they do, if this is the case then you can’t treat it like it’s no big deal. You have to be sensitive towards their feelings. Try to talk to your sister about how pretty she is and how smart she is. This way she may start to feel that she really is pretty and smart and can do things differently than you.
Don’t talk to other family members about this, that could be very embarrassing to your sister. Try keeping it between the two of you the best you can. If your in your younger years and your sister tries to do everything you do and is always on your case about how you are so much better and stuff, then it’s okay to go to your parents for help since you live together and it’s something you can’t really walk away from at the time.
If your older, then you are mature enough to find ways to handle this on your own. Talk to your sister about how you feel, don’t be mean about it just talk about it calmly and rationally the best you possibly can. You don’t want to hurt her feelings or anything, just be open and honest about how you feel.