When a divorce occurs it isn’t easy on anyone and everyone has their different ways of handling it. When you yourself are the one going through the divorce, it can have such an effect on you that it can make you do things you wouldn’t ordinarily do and it can alter the way you make decisions.
If you are going through a divorce, of course you are going to look for ways to continue to live your life without feeling so much pain. But of course you aren’t going to find ways to deal with your divorce over night and it’s not like you can just act like nothing is going on. You don’t want to make choices and decisions that will make things harder for everyone, so here are some common mistakes that people make when they are going through divorce that you should try to avoid.
Mistake #1: Having high expectations.
Mainly about what you will get from the divorce and your ex spouse. Don’t expect that you’re going to get everything in the house and all of the cars. You need to keep your expectations low so that way you don’t get really disappointed and more upset when you find that you’re only getting a certain amount of the belongings. You may not get everything you want, so don’t expect that you will.
Mistake #2: They don’t really think.
Don’t just one day say you want a divorce and than run to court with it. Take a while to give time to yourselves to see if a divorce is really what you want. You don’t want to get a divorce and than end up regretting it later, it will cause a huge mess that is completely pointless. You don’t want to make impulsive decisions that will leave you feeling more stressed and hurt than you need to be feeling.
Mistake #3: Make bad decisions that can hurt you in the long run.
Think about everything you say and do to this person before you do it! If you decide that you are going to go to wherever he/she is staying and pound on the door, drunk, at 4 in the morning yelling and calling them names, that could greatly effect how you will do in court. So be careful with the actions you take and the things you say or text.. or email as these will be proof in court.
Mistake #4: Being too nice hoping that your spouse will see they are making a mistake.
What happens if you be too generous and giving during the divorce hoping they’ll see you’ve changed, but they don’t see it and you’ve just given them everything, leaving you with nothing? It’s sad, and it doesn’t guarantee that they will stay with you, so don’t do this or else you will be left with nothing in the divorce.