Did anyone else notice how every single time Ashley had a chance to speak to the camera, she said Bentley’s name? The poor girl is still so hung up on how that creep made her feel. I really do have a bone to pick with the producers on this show. I think they overstepped their bounds by pursuing ratings a little too zealously. Their top priority should be to maintain the integrity of this show. It would be in their best interest to make sure that the Bachelor or Bachelorette truly finds someone to fall in love with. And in the case of Ashley, the producers blew it, as far as I can see. Let me explain further.
Remember Rozlyn Pappa? When the producers found out that she supposedly played hanky panky with one of the crew, she was summarily kicked off the show. They obviously didn’t want Jake Pavelka to waste his time on someone who wasn’t there for the right reasons, as they say. So when the producers heard Bentley’s comments that he made directly to the camera, they knew without a doubt that he was also there for the wrong reasons. So why didn’t they kick him off the show as well? The producers should have protected Ashley’s heart, at least for the time while she was under their care and deciding who to fall in love with. I’m angry at them for choosing ratings over her heart. Okay, I’m done preaching, but I’m still mad.
Let’s talk about last night’s dates. It seemed to me that Ashley was just going through the motions. She went on the dates, she used the word “amazing” a few times, but we all knew her heart wasn’t in it. Her first one-on-one date was with Constantine. Okay, he’s cute and he seems like a nice enough guy. But these guys don’t realize that they have to follow in Bentley’s footsteps. They need to step up their game. And during the evening’s romantic dinner date, Constantine kept droning on and on about his family and lord knows what else. We could see Ashley staring at him but thinking about Bentley.
Then for the group date. Ben F. stood out for me. Almost like someone stepping out of the shadows, out comes a gorgeous guy with a little bit of game, at least more than the rest of these guys, and I’m smitten. I hope Ashley was too. He was sexy, said some good stuff to Ashley, and he kissed her at just the right moment. All good stuff.
All throughout the show, it was so easy to read between the lines of the dialogue that Ashley said. First and foremost, she wanted to find a guy who would not leave her and break her heart. That was almost more important to her than finding a guy who SHE liked best. And it was also crystal clear in her conversations with these dudes, that she wanted to be reassured that she was beautiful and sexy and that they were turned on by her. Ashley was longing for someone to make her feel special, to stroke her arm, or play with her hair, and look into her eyes, the way Bentley did. And so many of these guys missed the cues. I was shaking my head in disbelief at how clueless they were.
The last one-on-one date was with Ames. I never liked his looks, but I have to say that he really was sort of witty and talked very intelligently with Ashley. So I guess there really was more to him than we saw on the surface. I sort of thought he looked like an alien, but that’s just one of my strange observations. He said one thing on their date that my daughter pointed out that Ashley should have heeded. He said that he likes to be spontaneous and he wants the girl he ends up with to allow him to do that. Ashley, with her amazing rationalization powers, turned it around and said something like “oh you mean you want you and your woman to do spontaneous things together” and he agreed, but he really didn’t. I’m afraid he might be one of those guys who will still want to do his own thing regardless of the woman he’s in a committed relationship with. Maybe Ashley should have paid attention to that red flag.
I have a suggestion for the producers of these Bachelor and Bachelorette series. Remember when Brad Womack had his own personal therapist helping him through this process? I know it didn’t do him any good though. I suspect that his therapist kept telling him that Chantal was hot and that he should pick her, but Brad didn’t listen and he chose Emily who we all know wasn’t really all that into him, but that’s beside the point. I think they should have a therapist on set to help the contestant sort out their feelings about all that they’re going through. I know Chris Harrison tries his best, but he doesn’t say much. He sure isn’t helping Ashley, that’s for sure. But I think having a therapist there might be helpful in allowing the person to make some smart choices. Just a thought. We know Ashley sure could use one at this point.
Ashley gave both Constantine and Ben F. and Ryan P. a rose. They were safe. She just let West go. I can see why. He always seemed so sad. He really gave the impression that he was still not over his wife’s death. I could not see Ashley with her usual bubbly personality being with someone as morose and quiet as West. So I think she made the right choice there.
Now the producers are messing with our heads by showing Ashley in the previews opening her door to hear Chris Harrison tell her that Bentley was in the same hotel. That instant look of hope and happiness in her eyes when Chris said that was truly pathetic, wasn’t it? The girl needs to be told what he’s all about and she should be shown what he had said behind her back. Then maybe she could stop this insane infatuation she still has for him.
I think it’s going to be hard for any of us to really be happy for Ashley if she chooses another guy, mostly because it won’t feel believable. We see how giddy and crazy she feels about Bentley, and I just can’t picture her feeling that way about any of the other guys, although there are many good ones there. That’s why I’m a little miffed at the producers. They may have tainted our show a bit by going after the ratings instead of protecting Ashley. We’ll just have to wait and see.