I’ve been a stay-at-home mom for over 7 years. I have many friends who are stay-at-home moms and they give great advice. My mom also helps me “get back to basics” when I start to struggle with my children. I’ve learned that discipline is different from punishment and that discipline is a learning opportunity rather than a power struggle. Here are 10 discipline tips that I use on my school-aged children that work very well.
Giving choices allow children more control over their day. Allow your child to choose what they want to wear or what they want to eat. If they choose something that is not a choice, simply inform them that is not a choice.
Did you know that a time out is not to be meant as punishment? Time outs are most effective when the child is removed from the situation to settle down, and then talk about what happened and necessary consequences. Perhaps a better term for time out should be “Thinking Step,” “Take a Break Space,” or “Calming Corner”.
Love and Logic
My daughter left her bike outside one night and it was gone come morning. Instead of getting mad at her about not doing what she was told, I simply said: “That’s too bad you’re bike is gone. You will be able to replace it when you earn enough money to get another one.” Logical consequences allow your child to see the affects of their choices and accept their own responsibility.
Never give more than one warning. The first time I followed through with the first warning, the look on my daughter’s face was priceless!
My daughter would do anything to get out of hard labor. Adding an extra chore is very effective. Taking a privilege away also works, it just depends on the child.
Write a sorry letter
This might sound artificial and insincere, and some parents may even disagree with me; however, depending on the situation, this allows a child to think about what they did and how the other person might be feeling.
Power of distraction
Sometimes, the best thing to do in a difficult situation is to distract them and make them laugh.
Talk out the crime
Every story has two sides and each side has a right to tell it. Listen with understanding and discuss what they did wrong and what they could do better next time.
Rehashing old crimes
After the consequence has been put into place then that incident is over forever. Bringing it up again means that their consequence did not fix the problem and you never forgave them.
Always be consistent
Being inconsistent with discipline can be confusing to a child of what is okay and what is not. Always be consistent!
Sum it up
We love our children and want what’s best for them. Teaching our children boundaries and limitations teaches them respect and to be well-rounded adults. After all, they are our future.
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