10 Things Wrong with the American Adoption System

Just about anything that could go wrong with a child adoption system has gone wrong with the American adoption system. Although some people do not want to admit it, the main impetus for this system is “profit,” rather than getting children adopted by acceptable candidates in a timely manner. Beyond this, what we have is the entrenched racist, elitist, highly discriminatory and unrealistic agenda of these presumptuous individuals.

Without question, the American adoption system favors wealthy, healthy, white, background-perfect and heterosexual individuals, even though none of these things is necessarily an accurate indicator or predictor of suitability as a parent, as the following 10 gross deficiencies indicate.

1) It seeks to find the “perfect parents” for every child. Needless to say, there is no such a thing. Furthermore, the assumptions that go with this mentality unnecessarily hamper rather than facilitate adoptions. It is indeed ironic that many of the people who work for adoption agencies came from humble backgrounds, born into families that probably would not have been able to adopt them, had they depended on the American adoption system to have children.

Although the find-a-perfect-parent-adoption-mentality entrepreneurs do not want to hear it, people with criminal records (unless we are talking about child abuse or neglect), poor credit ratings, bad driving records, lack of former parenting experience, status of being single and lack of membership in the white race can be as good parental candidates as the people now obsessively favored.

2. It heavily favours rich people or people generally better-off financially. Favoring wealthy parents is a ridiculously flawed attitude, considering how maladjusted the children of many rich people (especially if they are celebrities) turn out to be. Financial stability or superiority is no guarantee that someone will be a good parent.

It should suffice that the applicant is able to provide food and shelter for a child and, to suggest that people need to have “X” number of dollars in the bank or be bringing “Y” number of dollars in income is, at best, a presumptuous demand. Isn’t the ulterior motive here that people be able to pay the exorbitant fees demanded by the adoption profiteers in charge of the adoption system?

For the record, poor people can often be much better parents than rich people, even if they do not have the ability to pamper their children into becoming spoiled, presumptuous brats.

3. It is unnecessarily complicated. Potential parents are, in fact, encouraged by advisors to apply at least a year in advance. Why? Is it so quality control can be maintained or so that the best possible scenarios are worked out? No, the main reason is (plain and simple) that the system is unnecessarily bogged down with the type of silly regulations, moronic guidelines and overwhelming bureaucracy that make the Pentagon look, by comparison, highly efficient.

It is easier, as a matter of fact, to put in an order for a nuclear power plant than it is to apply to become a parent. While this may be an exaggeration, the bottom line is that the process can and should be much simpler and the main reason why it is not is, again, tied to the profitability factor. The more steps involved, the more fees that potential parents are hit with, while children unnecessarily sit in adoption agency warehouses, waiting for the adoption entrepreneurs to practice (like insane magicians) their bureaucratic, profit-obsessed hocus-pocus.

4. It suffers from the wrong kind of government involvement and control. Federal and some state laws, for example, are supposed to discourage or stop discriminatory practices in the adoption process, but these laws are rarely enforced. Some of us would even argue that much of the discrimination that takes place is an offshoot of the U.S. government’s racist, bigoted agenda of former times, which would make the laws that have been passed simply window dressing, let’s-appear-to-be-politically-correct sideshows.

Beyond that, the government (both at the state and the federal level) takes a laissez-faire attitude when it comes to adoption, pretty much letting adoption entrepreneurs do whatever they want, intervening only when absolutely necessary and usually merely in a superficial capacity. What involvement they do have revolves around adding ridiculous, unnecessary bureaucracy to a system that is already too bureaucratic.

For the record, the American adoption system needs to be regulated more closely, but not for the sake of making it more bureaucratic than it already is (as if that were possible), but, rather, so the system can be forced, at last, to become more fair, efficient, quick-acting and accountable to everyone, especially the children waiting to be adopted, those who apply to become adoptive parents and tax payers – not just to wealthy, well-connected white Americans.

In league with the adoption entrepreneurs, many politicians, caring more for profits (in the form of financial support they get from adoption entrepreneurs) and for putting on an act that they actually want adoptive children to be safe (thus espousing the myth of the “perfect-parents-only” policy), have worked hard to create the messed-up system presently in place.

Never mind that many children that should be adopted fairly quickly often sit for years in adoption agency warehouses and that many would-be parents are kept waiting ridiculously long periods of time. Who cares? As long as those hefty adoption fees keep pouring in and the government and the adoption entrepreneurs maintain their highly racist and discriminatory control!

5. It takes too long to process applications. It is clear from the system in place that the profiteers who control the adoption process do not see anything wrong with the fact that, in any given year, there are literally thousands of Americans who want to adopt children but who are, nevertheless, kept waiting for a child to adopt, usually because of bureaucratic reasons. By the same token, there are thousands of children willing and ready to be adopted. What’s wrong with this grim and disgusting picture?

There is absolutely no reason why most adoptions cannot be worked out within weeks (six months at the latest). The main reason this does not happen is because of the entrenched attitudes of the irresponsible, racist tyrants in charge of the adoption process and because a long, drawn out process allows for more fees, including the storage fees paid by taxpayers for warehousing adoptable children. Why allow children to be adopted in six weeks when keeping said children at a child warehouse facility (i.e., an orphanage) is, simply put, a lot more profitable (for those who get regular government checks to warehouse children)?

6. It has too much of a “profit” motivation behind it. The focus of the adoption system should be finding, ASAP, suitable parents for children available for adoption. The “ASAP” is, unfortunately, though, one of the basic ingredients missing from the formula these days – preceded, of course, by profit concerns. Clearly, a number of key players in the adoption process benefit financially from adoptions. While this should not come as a surprise to anyone, since we live in a capitalistic society, the fact that the adoption process is deliberately delayed primarily because this results in higher profit. That is what we need to condemn and, if possible, change.

The more steps involved, the longer children are warehoused, the more people are given high-paying jobs within the industry. All of these things increase profit margins (to those who run the system), but they unfairly keep children from being adopted and parents from finding the children they so desperately want. Though some people may not want to admit it, adoptions can take place, in general, at a much lower cost than presently in place. In fact, there is nothing non-profit about most adoption agencies, though some of them have the gall to call themselves (shamefully, with the full blessing of the IRS) “nonprofits.”

7. It is very biased. Although we have come a long way in terms of race relations, we still live in a country that quite blatantly discriminates, especially when it comes to adoptions. While it is easy, for example, for a white family to qualify to get a black child, it is still very difficult (if at all possible) for a black family to qualify to get a white child.

The presumptuous “experts” (the same idiots that came up with the “perfect parent” facade) who work for adoption agencies give all kinds of reasons (including the ridiculous assertion that a white child would not adapt well if growing up in a black family). But let’s be frank, the real reasons go along with the white supremacy ideology and the perspective that a white child is too good for a black family.

As for a white child adapting well within a black family, there is no scientific, non-subjective evidence to condemn this, and plenty of actual instances proving that good parenting can occur regardless of race dynamics – arguments that cogently argue against the racist reasons given by the so-called “experts” working for these adoption agencies

The blatant discriminatory practices of the American adoption system, though, do not stop at racist agendas. People who are overweight, unhealthy, single, older, the disabled, homosexuals, transgendered, people who practice unpopular religions or who play non-traditional religious roles, and some foreigners, continue to have trouble qualifying as suitable adoptive parents. When will we have an adoption system that blindly looks at all parenting applicants equally, abandoning, at last, all these presumptuous, unfounded, racist and narrow-minded expectations and agendas?

8. It motivates and helps to encourage the black market adoption industry. Although not much is said about it, there is an underground black market that exists for those who want to adopt but who may not have the patience, money and time to deal with the American adoption system. Unfortunately, the “black” market also favors the wealthy, but at least it is not burdened by the same crazy bureaucracy and unnecessary delays. Anyone who can pay for a child gets a child, often under apparently legitimate “deals” (sometimes under the label of “surrogate birth” adoption arrangements).

9. It unforgivably encourages many Americans to go abroad for adoptions. This goes on even though thousands of American children stay warehoused in adoption agency facilities because of reasons other than there not being suitable parents available. What an incredible shame! If there were a shortage of adoptable children (although it is true that there are not enough healthy white babies for everyone that wants one), it would be a different matter.

Why do Americans have to go abroad when there are, in any given month, thousands of children waiting to be adopted here? Some people say it is because there are more children available for adoption abroad, but, while that may be so, other, more prominent reasons abound. For one thing, even though adoption systems abroad are also heavily flawed (probably because they are learning to also put profit above children’s needs), they seem to be more eager to get children adopted quickly. By the way, even healthy white children are not given to qualified parents in the U.S. as quickly as possible.

10. It is mostly run and controlled by clueless individuals whose competence and motives need to be closely questioned and challenged. As someone who closely followed and reported on the adoption industry for three years (as a contributor for a consumer advocacy newsletter), I slowly and justifiably formed a cynical view of adoption industry entrepreneurs and bureaucrats. With the exception of a few people who are in the industry to actually help adoptive parents realize their dream or to help unadopted children find good parents, the industry is full of very sleazy individuals and people who, despite their outward good intentions, are part of an industry that creates more problems than it resolves, is too profit-oriented and simply takes too long to do its job.

The adoption system, in fact, can work a lot better and at a much lower cost but only if some of the people who now profit from the present inefficiencies and travesties are literally kicked out of the system. Maybe then children and parents can be allowed to connect in a relatively short time, for affordable fees and without adherence to the racist, discriminatory practices presently in place.

References and Resources

1. American for Open Records. “Abolish Adoption: Overcoming Adoption Sins and Secrecy.” (2001)


2. AmFOR. “1000 Reasons to Abolish Adoption.” (2007-09)


3. Wikilaw3k. “How is the United States’ Adoption System Flawed?” (2009)


4. Maldonado, Solangel. “Discouraging Racial Preferences in Adoption.” (2000) http://www.law2.byu.edu/isfl/saltlakeconference/papers/isflpdfs/Maldonado.pdf

5. BBC. “Fighting the US Adoption System.” (2003).


6. N. Carolina DHHS. “Chapter VI: Adoption Service.” (2010).